Ok First www.cafepress.com for the shirt,
will you feel like visitors in the hospital umm probably not not more then your husband or mother or whoever goes with you to have it done but that choice is yours the first day you are mostly sleeping anyway,
once you are home REST Is the BEST...DO NOT over do anything no bending or picking things up!
as for the pillow after surgery i found that there is one that helped me best it is sold almost everywhere now in the "as seen on tv" spots of the stores for about $20.00 its called the SIDE SLEEPER..there are other places that reccomend other pillows more costly for chiarians but i found this one was of great comfort esp after surgery.
they do sell a spray can shampoo at the drug stores YOU WILL NOT NEED THIS IN THE HOSPITAL, and once you are home and if i remember correctly until the staples are out you can not get your head wet anyway- that depends on your doctor and a good question to ask him, when i was able to wash i remember i needed assistance and i think i had my husband help me wash my hair in the kitchen sink with the sprayer until we got a removeable sprayer for the shower (leaning head back wasnt going to work in the shower leaning a bit forward was easier)
you may want to have a 6 pk of gingerale sitting in your home just incase you are nausated when you get home, that was the only thing that i could drink that even slightly settled my stomach, oh and saltine crackers they help also. And you may want some soft foods like jello,yogurt around as well they are gentle on the stomach... OH and here is also a tip eat yogurt it is good for you esp if it has that live culture stuff in it, it will help ward off thrush
REST REST REST is best when you are up and moving walking will help recovery but dont be walking a marathon ;)
**KEY**UNDERSTAAND when leaving hospital if you have any complications contact your doctor, make sure YOU and Yourhusband or whoever goes with you or is with you at discharge understand what sort of complications may arise and understand what it is you are to do and or whom it is you are to contact!!.
tip those who go with you for surgery will be by far more bored then you will be tell them to bring a book/ their ipod/computer/ or something to keep them entertained. Also supply those ppl with a e-mail list of ppl you want them to msg with an update on how you are doing.
For you: depending on how you are feeling a day or two after surgery you may want to bring something to amuse you as well then you will be glad for it.
I think I answered all the questions others might have other suggestions.
Congrats and good luck
~Lisa