So, I tried to return to work today, only to be sent to the HR office to be told that I would not be permitted to return to my current position with the restrictions my primary put me on. I have to return to him, have him fill out a fit for duty form with the restictions on it and then they will decide if they can accomodate the restrictions with a different possition for me or not. I'm so frustrated and stressed right now that I feel like my head is going to explode!
Not only can I not return to work, today is the last day with pay I have and then I will be placed on non-paid FMLA for the 42 days of FMLA I have remaining:(
I'm so upset right now and I think my husband is going to flip out when I tell him, not only can't I return to work, I won't be getting paid. The past two months have put such a strain on us, and our relationship as we try to come to terms with each new thing that comes up. We just started making some progress this weekend ant trying to talk a litte more and he did agree to switch his day off and go with me to the NS on Wednesday. I just feel that I'm going to have to really get started on retirement under disability right now, so that at least there will be some money comming in in a month or so. I tried for two hours since I've gotten home to get ahold of my primary and couldn't get through. Oh boy, I just seem to be losing control of my life, what it was, what it will become...I thank you for being here, letting me "talk" it out and being so very supportive. Might have to sit down and have the cry I've been holding in for the past few months. Maybe I'll feel better and be able to regroup and start planning what will be my future....my thoughts and feelings, hopes and dreams...they are all within my control...now it really is time to really "do Me". Wish me luck once again as I try to get it all together once again:)
Hi, I'm 25 and had to have this surgery done as well. I am not allowed to return to work myself, and am forced to have to apply for diability. At age 25 it's a hard thing, but I try to look at my son everyday and say that if I didn't get this surgery I might not have been around for him. My surgery was so complicated and risky that there were times where I didn't want to get it done. Keep your head up and things will work themselves out, at least thats what everyone keeps telling me. I live by this statement. "It could always be worse; there is ALWAYS someone worse off than me."
Thanks for sharing...I think he just doesn't know what to do and is going off the deep end in an estreme manner. I talked to him when he came home tonite. He immediatly had me down grade my phone to a nonsmart phone just calls and text and he's turning off the wifi and dropping down the cable to basic. This might be the last post for me for awhile. I will get my pension, either through disability or early retirment if they deny the disablity. If I can get that approved, I'll try to get SSDI also. He's acting like I'm never going to have any money coming in at all. I feel like he's so angry at me for getting sick and unable to do my job and go back to our old life. I'm going to miss being able to turn to all of you, and know I'm not so alone in this. Everytime I try to talk to him it just turns into such a fight and I just don't have it in me. Tonight I just told him I needed time out and I went to my daughters house for awhile. Now I'm back home and was happy the lap top was still on...I don't know for how long though. I'll just have to pray and stay strong and do what I can to get through this and on to my new life. It's just so hard now. Hope I get back to you soon....stay well and thanks so much, Aveet
ChiariWife said:
Oh doll, I so understand. My husband Chris is the resident Chiarian at our house, it slapped him right in the face December 16th of 2011. Just like that, Thursday night he went to work just fine & dandy and Friday morning his left eye had fallen and he was walking like he was drunk. He was having decompression surgery on 1/17/12.... and it's been a horrifying whirlwind ever since. He worked midnights in a steel plant, what did you do? His vision is still messed up and the ophthalmologist isn't wanting to discuss surgical procedures until mid-July. Unfortunately, his disability ends 7/4 and of course if he can't return by then, they'll terminate him. In regards to NoZipperScar7's reply.... Chris is 35 and it's exactly that, HARD to wrap our heads around the fact that he is having to fight for SSDI. He's already been denied, though he failed the SSA NL's tests, they declared that his condition (though serious) is expected to improve and won't keep him from work for 12 consecutive months. I'd really love to know what they think he can do when he can't see straight, can't drive and has debilitating pain on a daily basis.
My love and prayers to you both (Aveet & NoZipperScar7).... and anyone else who unfortunately relates to what's being discussed here. I know it's all very daunting, there are days when I just don't have the strength to face what our lives have and are becoming. That is why this site has become so near and dear to my heart. Everyone understands here. Everyone relates and offers nothing but support and kindness. We're always, always here Aveet.... so cry. Lash out. Get mad, sad and back to glad. We'll all be here through the ups and downs. :)
Thanks NoZipperScar7, I'm trying very hard to keep my head up and keep myself together. I do believe that God has a plan for me and I really need to let go and have faith that it will all work out....I'm just really struggling with all of this, so much change and stress and sadness about so many things. Sad that I can't do my job that I actually liked, and be with the people that I've worked with for so long. Sad that my husband is so angry right now and scared of what it will do to us, and our relationship. I know that there are always so many people worse off than me, even with all of this, i do believe that we'll be ok...it just so hard right now and I guess I'm tired of fighting with him, tired of feeling so misunderstood. oh boy, I didn't really want to ramble on so...such a rough day today.. thanks again, I'll get it together and I'll write again when I can. Aveet
NoZipperScar7 said:
Hi, I'm 25 and had to have this surgery done as well. I am not allowed to return to work myself, and am forced to have to apply for diability. At age 25 it's a hard thing, but I try to look at my son everyday and say that if I didn't get this surgery I might not have been around for him. My surgery was so complicated and risky that there were times where I didn't want to get it done. Keep your head up and things will work themselves out, at least thats what everyone keeps telling me. I live by this statement. "It could always be worse; there is ALWAYS someone worse off than me."