my surg is sch for March 18, and of the many thoughts that race through my head daily about my surg, I am worried about how my 7 & 3 yr old Will react. My 7 yr old is severe ADHD and my 3yr old keeps up with him. Any comments or tips from chiarians who have “been there done that”? thanks.
There is a book for children about there Parents having CM & surgery. . I will get the name of it from Abby. It is supposed to great to read to your children answers a lot of questions they might have. I would keep what you tell them simple. My daughter was older than your sons when I was diagnosed & had surgery. I am sure you worry also. NS have told me the actual surgery isn't very difficult. What you & friends that can help you with your children? How is your support system? You will have to take it easy & concentrate on yourself getting well.
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Tracy Z.
I know exactly how you feel. I’m starting to get real worried. I’m scheduled for surgery on Tuesday I have a 5 year old little girl who told me, ‘I will come see you at the doctors office when he cut your head off mommy’ and she also asked my mom ‘Well my mommy Be the same mommy when she wakes up?’ I have reassures her that mommy is going to be better then ever! I have to keep a positive outlook, especially for her. I just try and be honest, but not scary. Reassurance. I am blessed to have an amazing supportive family and I hope you do too. Good luck!
I have 5 children, 3 with special needs. Before I had surgery I called the hospital and asked if there was anyone who could talk with the kids and explain what was going to happen to me. We all met with a therapist from the hospital and she was very good about explaining in words that the kids understood what was going to happen to me, about my hair being shaved, about them having to be careful not to jump on the bed, that mom would not be able to pick them up for a while, that mom would sleep alot and be in bed and that I would be gone for some days and staying at the hospital. My husband and I decided before hand that the kids would come to the hospital for 1 short visit. That was explained to them before the surgery. I have two boys with ADD and 1 with autism. The therapist had the kids play with small manipulative toys while she talked with them and I wasn't sure if any of the boys was listening or retaining anything but they did! I was very glad that we did this because I was so freaked out about having the surgery that I realized that we hadn't really explained anything to them. Just a suggestion!
i know the feeling my 9yr. old is adhd too and its bad and his sister is very clinging to me and i hope she will be alright when i have my surgery on feb.27th