I have talked to the surgery scheduler 5 times in the last two weeks and nurse Nancy 3 times and not once was it mentioned I needed to see my primary doctor for a physical AND blood work done before surgery! I just got my packet today… Again it’s been a week and half since I got a date. My doctor has 4 working days before the 15th. And they expect her to squeeze me in for this and get the blood work results back before Friday?!
Needless to say I am a bit irritated and will not be happy if this delays the surgery because I have everything at work settled and my kids are covered for this surgery. Of course I will call tomorrow but I am really concerned about this.
Not to mention it’s been a bad week and with all the extra stress I am having doubts. I am sure it is normal but I am really having doubts now. I have cried off and on all day at work I am in major pain right now and get home to this “packet” that says nothing except dont eat or drink after midnight and make the appointment for my doctor.
I am an emotional mess. I can’t seem to calm myself down and my anti anxiety meds aren’t helping at all. Some one please reassure me it will be ok I am literally begging here lol
That is very easy to do. Did they tell you that you& normal to be can pick up the order and go to the facility that you are having your surgery at & they can do it almost anytime?
It is easy & normal to be nervous. The worst for me was when I was waiting in pre surgical holding....all alone and scared. You need to remember why you are having this surgery & what brought you to this decision. Trust yourself and your NS. Do whatever you do to ground yourself...pray , meditate, fish, eat your favorite food, spend time with loved ones. Anti Anxiety meds work only so well. I know it's tough. Please know you are not alone. We all have been there. I promise !!!
Nope it specifically says make an appointment with My PCP for her to fill out what looks like a physical form and do the bloodwork. I go to Ohio Monday to sign the consents and go over all the surgery stuff and it’s a 2 hour drive and I know I won’t get in on Monday to my doctor.
I am going to call both places in the morning to see what my options are and I am sure it will work out. I am just stressed, had a bad day at work and they make me feel like they are planning on me not coming back or planning my funeral. Cried in a meeting with my boss over it and now ill have another spur the moment appointment for them to work around after hearing today how short handed we are and will be when I am gone. It’s just all a mess.
Which is why I can’t help but think maybe it’s not a good time. Or maybe I am just nervous and will get over it. I know I shouldn’t worry about work but I do. I am sure all my feelings are not al but I just can’t seem to talk myself down from it all today.
Beeba has even done this twice.....In Va. you get all your pre op work up at the facility and not your PCP. It is very, very easy. I promise. They have to do blood work and a EKG and a chest xray. Then you fill out a form for the Anesthesiologist. Please know we all understand. That is what is so great about this group. when you come down to it everyone has your back...no matter what.
I had my surgery at University of Cincinnati with the Mayfield Group and I saw a NP for my physical and they did the blood work then. I am sure they can work something out for you.
As far as work goes, there is never a good time. BUT you have to think of yourself. You will be of more benefit to them when you are feeling better. Deep breath . . . you can do this!
You all are so great, seriously…: it’s just like no one else understands and yes it is “you can do this” “you will be fine” " it’s not that big of a deal" well sure it isn’t when it isn’t your brain! Lol
I hope we can work something out because I just know myself and I know that if it had to be rescheduled then I probably wouldn’t do it for awhile. Not going to stress this for several more weeks. Not when I have finally got a plan for family and kids and everything already in place.
I know I just have cold feet and the surgery itself does freak me out but not as much as the pain and recovery all while still being a mom and 2 dogs at home.
I want to believe I am strong enough for this because of all I have been through with myself and my kids but my anxiety is getting the best of me. I am usually good at the fake it to make it but this week has been draining and I can only imagine what next week will be.
I truly appreciate all of you… It is such a comforting feeling knowing there are real people to talk to that has been there done that cheering me on. And I want this… I want my life back, it’s keeping my sanity for one more week.
Thank you all very very much! You are a wonderful group that’s for sure!
Have you talked to Nancy or your doctor yet? I would call and tell them that you can't get into your doctor and see if Mayfield can fill out the form and order the bloodwork when you come in on Monday.
I called my doctor and they said I can come in Monday to do the blood work and it will be done before Friday for results. She said to bring the form with me and they will look at it and maybe just go off my last appointment. So I will go there Monday (she isn’t in today) but will be before my appointment at mayfield Monday afternoon. Sooo I am thinking it will all get worked out.
Here I was thinking maybe it just wasnt meant to be… Maybe it is.
Now tell me if I should be thinking this is a sign to not have this surgery.. got everything figured out and just got a call that my surgery was moved to the 19th.. something came up on the 15th. So now I have rearrange my work schedule, rearrange having my children and will now go 10 days without seeing them. I am pissed and upset in general. I had finally got everything set and trying to mentally prepare and although it is onl a 4 day difference, it is 4 days and all the rearranging.
So again I am questioning my decision for surgery :( I know things come up with doctors and this happens but I am so stressed out and depressed over all of it. sorry for venting, I know there are bigger issues with other people and things could be worse so I feel bad for bitching over something so small.. but i am any way
TracyZ said:
Beeba has even done this twice.....In Va. you get all your pre op work up at the facility and not your PCP. It is very, very easy. I promise. They have to do blood work and a EKG and a chest xray. Then you fill out a form for the Anesthesiologist. Please know we all understand. That is what is so great about this group. when you come down to it everyone has your back...no matter what.
Beeba I think we are long lost relatives lol I love the way you are blunt and to the point! And yes you are right with everything you said! I think I was having my freak out break down moments and sure there will be more to come in the next few days!
I am now thinking the positive that I do have 4 extra days and a full weekend without my kids to make sure the house is cleaned spotless and everything is ready for me and them when I get home. Not that I wouldn’t want that weekend with my kids but you know what I mean. I will have a weekend to try and relax and get my thinking straight. And I am going to take off work the 18th the day before surgery so I have an extra day. I am to the point where work is the least of my concerns. Legally I will have a job and my company is amazing and has great benefits my men bosses (IT dept) are just handling this very poorly. And the way I see it now… I can be out on short term for 168 days and my company even pays my insurance and benefits for me… I pay nothing while I am off. Lol so if worse comes to worse I will use however many days I need even if that is to find a new job lol
I am feeling a little better and I thank you for all your replies! I am ready to do this and get it over with and hopefully feel better and half way normal again lol whatever normal is!
Beeba said:
I completely understand your frustration. As moms we tend to live our life where 5 minutes can make or break us. But this is out of your hands. As for the signs you keep looking for - you have missed the neon one saying your brain is out of your skull. The only sign you got was that there was probably someone worse off than you. And that was just not YOUR day. You now have the extra 4 days to make sure all pre-op is finished. They never seem to move these things up so there is less time to freak out!! I make clear that I am not religious - but that said - I do think things happen for a reason - often we may never know what that reason is. I am sure this screwed up all your plans but you will get it all back together and now ya got 4 extra days. I have truly never heard of this ever being discovered by what is truly an accident(meant to scan your foot and somehow did your head) and the person didn't have a single symptom so they thought "what the heck - I will have brain surgery" you had symptoms that led to a diagnosis and I am sure you weighed the good with the bad. So this is what is meant to be. If the whole hospital goes into a sink hole right before you get there - I will give it to you - that is a sign - short of that this is what is meant to be. I am so sorry you are feeling so anxious and the weight of the world with your job. I will say a huge benefit to this surgery is perspective. Keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you calmness and peace with all of this.
Girl you got this <3!!! You’re going to rock this brain surgery and tell me everything so I will know what to expect, don’t panic now. Love and hugs your way