Folks,
Today, I was busy with My mother. She will be 85 tomorrow, and my daughter and I wanted to do something special for her birthday, so we took her lunch, then I had some other appointments. I checked our site, and my heart sank with Lori's discussion on acceptance. What do you all think the new folks think of us? Lori's discussion was meant to let folks come to terms with their condition and write it out. Instead of something being meant to be helpful, turned into a total bashing between some of our members.
I know some of us still have a lot of chiari issues, and want to talk about it here. We are turning folks off, by treating each other without respect. We all need UNDERSTANDING, WITHOUT JUDGMENT AND ALL THIS BICKERING.
This site was created for us to help other folks. Helping folks does not consists of all this bickering, so I am asking everyone to please use respect for one another. Before something is written out, think about if it is hurtful and unkind. For Gosh sakes, we all got Chiari, and living with it is hard, and we deal with stuff most folks don't have to deal with. Though it not be cancer, it is just as bad in ways.
I am one of the longest members and administrators on here and am disappointed something that was created to help folks especially those newly diagnosed to learn about Chiari, and get some support from us, the ones that have been diagnosed for a while, and know about it. What kind of message are we sending to our new folks?
Shirley and Julie, I am so very thankful that you both had great results with your surgeries, and had the best of doctors, however, we have some folks who did not use the facilities you both did, nor the doctors you both used. Some folks use the doctors they have to use. The percentages on successful surgeries, is not that great, and until more research is done, we all are in the same boat. We have folks on here that have to use state agencies for help, and folks who want to learn about what works and what don't. We have folks who are scared to death, and need assurance and support from ALL OF US!
THIS SITE IS NOT ABOUT ME, IT IS ABOUT WE. So please folks keep it nice, keep it truthful, keep it where folks want to come on here, and don't push something down someones throat, that does not apply to them, or push you point to where it may offend someone.
I prayed for a site that I could come to get support, and this place was wonderful, we have wonderful awesome folks here who really want to help others and be there for one another.
GOD BLESS,
Abby