I have had the surgery, back in Aug '09 (different hospital and I'm an adult, but I'll share my story)
I went in on a Wed, Aug 19. Had to be there at about 6 am, was called back to a pre-op area where they weigh you, check your temp, get you into your gown, etc. This is where the surgeon comes in and talks about the procedure, you go over what to expect immediately after and how the family will be updated, etc. Then I saw the anesthesiologist, who went over what I should expect as far as anesthesia. I was also given a Picc line, at this point, which is a more extensive IV and was sort of uncomfortable. More so than any regular IV I have had, but I handled it fine. I did a bit of waiting with my husband before they called me in for my surgery, probably about 15-20 minutes. Honestly, I think this time made him more nervous lol. But I really felt ready and ok about it, I wasn't having any anxiety about it. They did offer me something to calm me but I didn't feel I needed it.
They eventually called me back and my husband had to leave, man...that was hard, I felt so bad for him because I knew being in his position was much worse than mine. I was going to be asleep for the next few hours, he was going to wait and wait and wait.
In the OR, which was pretty cool actually, they attached a bunch of electrode things to my scalp for reading my brain waves during the surgery, put long compression socks on each of my legs and did a bunch of other stuff around me but I can't recall exactly what. There are a lot of people in the room during the surgery, at least for mine there was. I was at a teaching hospital, so my operating room was a theater type where people could watch through a glass window, from a balcony area (my description is obviously layman terms, sorry if I am not using the correct terms I am going by memory). It's very busy at that point. Last I remember, they were asking me if I was nervous and I said something like "no, are you?" And they laughed and I was out.
My surgery lasted about 4 hours and then I was taken into recovery. During the surgery, the way our hospital is set up there is a wall in the family waiting area with last names of patients on a digital screen and right next to your name they have the status of your surgery. Like 'prep' or 'in OR' or 'finishing up" or 'in recovery room'.
My doctor sort of scared the crap out of my husband because he noticed that most of the time a nurse would come out and tell the family how the surgery went and when they could come back to see their family member. Well, a nurse came out and asked for my husband and told him to 'come back, the doctor wanted to speak to him" OMG, he about had a heart attack. There wasn't anything wrong, my surgeon told him he liked to be the one to talk to the family immediately afterward to let them know how it went and give them an opportunity to ask questions. LOL, I can only imagine how much that would have sucked.
I woke up in recovery and I won't lie, I was in a significant amount of pain at this point. I don't know how they do it elsewhere or with children, but in my case they told me beforehand that I would not be receiving pain medication immediately after waking up until they could assess my neurological function. Ok, that was not fun. But it didn't take long before I was blissfully pain free. I felt sort of shaky and they covered me with lots of warm blankets.
I was taken to an ICU step down unit room and they let my husband and kids come in and see me for a few minutes and then shooed them out to get me settled. My family came back in and visited for a while. My husband was concerned because every now and again I would have like a muscle spasm or something and jerk really hard, while he was holding my hand. It was perfectly normal. Expect some weird stuff at first, it takes a while for the brain to bounce back. I was definitely sore that first night and kept falling asleep and waking up to be in pain and then would push the pain medication button and have to wait for it to start working.
I remember at one point, there was another woman in the bed next to me and I heard her call the nurses station and say "I think the girl in the room with me is in pain because she is moaning" LOL, she was talking about ME! LOL, I didn't even know I was making any noise. That was kind of embarrassing.
The next day was significantly better!!! I was pretty drugged up but that was exactly what I needed to be. I felt like that day was pretty much pain free. Of course my neck was stiff, but I was definitely on the road to recovery. I found myself falling asleep on my visitors and really wasn't much company, lol. I didn't have ANY appetite in the hospital. None. As a matter of fact, I had to force myself to eat breakfast the second day because they told me I was going to be discharged until I ate something. They took the foley catheter out the second day so I could get up and walk to the bathroom to urinate. That was weird, I was totally dizzy. On Friday morning Aug 21, two days after coming into the hospital and also my 43rd birthday, my surgeon came in and asked me if I wanted to go home and I said YES!! I was so happy to go home. I had only one more test to pass and that was with the physical therapist. If I could walk down the hallway and back, up a few stairs and down and turn my head a little from side to side. I passed and went home.
I hardly remember the first two weeks, they are a blur because my husband was very good about making sure I took my pain medicine and muscle relaxers on time. I had a textbook surgery and a perfect recovery, not infection or anything. I didn't even go back at the one year mark for a follow up because I felt better than I had in YEARS. I remember the first headache I had post op and it was not a Chiari one, it was just a garden variety normal headache and was relieved easily with tylenol.
I did have a lot of brain fog for a while and it took 1.5 years for my hair to grow back completely. I didn't drive for about 3 months because my neck was pretty stiff. One thing I would have done differently is ask for physical therapy for my neck muscles. I think it would have helped me heal more quickly. I felt like myself about 6 months post op. I know that seems like a long time and every day I felt better but this is a really major surgery.
Now, three and a half years later, I am having some Chiari type headaches again and some tingling in my hand and swallowing issues. I am seeing my surgeon on Tuesday, hoping this isn't a Chiari thing, hoping it's the herniated disc issue I was aware of before my surgery that he told me I may end up having to do something about down the road. I am not as bad off as I was before my surgery, So I am hopeful that this is just a minor bump in the road.
I would definitely do the surgery again, if need be. It was worth every second. I could not remember a day where I didn't have a headache for YEARS before my surgery. I had three solid years headache free, so it was definitely worth it to me.
Not sure if this was what you were looking for, but I know I combed the net for as much surgery info as I could get before I went in, so I wanted to give you my experience. Sorry so long winded lol.
I wish your daughter the best of luck and {{{HUGS}}} to you. I can only imagine how hard it would be to watch a child go through this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Wendy